When you are filled with emotional hurt, it cuts down on space for new feelings, ideas, and relationships. How can you make more space in yourself for positive feelings? There are steps you can take to let go of long-held emotional pain that may make forgiving easier.
You may first need to express your pain — and your responsibility. Get it all out, whether it involves talking it out with the person involved or someone else you trust. What could you have done differently? Do you understand the whole situation? Then make the decision to let it go. Things don’t disappear on their own. Accept that you have a choice, and make a commitment. Stop going over all the sordid details in your head. Focus on the present and on joy. No one can undo the past — all you can do is to make today better.
When memories creep into your consciousness (as they are bound to do), acknowledge them, and then bring yourself gently back into the present moment. Then work to forgive the person — and yourself. We can’t always forget another person’s bad behaviors, but virtually everybody deserves forgiveness. Forgiving isn’t a sign of weakness, it isn’t saying, “I agree with what you did.” It is instead saying, “What you did was wrong, but I forgive you anyway.”
Nobody’s life should be defined by their pain. It adds to stress, hurts your ability to focus, impacts other relationships, and is physically unhealthy. It can be tough, but do yourself a favor and let go. It’s time to welcome happiness into your life.
If you’d like to set an atmosphere for letting go of pain, our Real Relief Kit or you can try our Real Relief Ready-to-Apply Kit can help you to release the things in your mind and body that aren’t serving you well. Give it a try and tell us how it works for you!