If you ask, nine people out of ten say that their relationships with family and friends give them more fulfillment than pretty much anything else in life. But those same people would likely be quick to admit that relationships are also the most complex, difficult, and frustrating challenge they face on any give day. Connecting with someone else takes a lot of resources: time, commitment, communication, and often a good dose of patience.
One thing that’s often overlooked for relationship health is this — your relationship with yourself. When you have a thorough understanding of your own emotions, you can have a strong foundation to love, support, and commit to others. If you don’t understand your own attitudes, thoughts and feelings, things can get shaky.
We can help. Our inspiring Love essential oil blend is designed not only to warm up outside relationships, but to help to you tune into your own emotional cues, boost inspiration and find feelings of sincerity. In short, it’s the perfect blend to use to both build outside relationships and to nurture that foundational relationship with your own heart and brain.
Try this daily practice for ten days to improve your own emotional connection with yourself … especially during stressful times of the year (the holidays) and for extra support when working through complex emotions or circumstances. We provide times here as a guideline. Take as much time as you need … but don’t shortchange yourself. Use enough (at least ten minutes total) for full effect.
- Apply a dilution of Love essential oil blend to your wrists, shoulders, and neck. Massage the blend into your skin for at least one minute, concentrating on areas where you are holding stress. Alternatively, you can add a few drops of the full-strength Love blend to your diffuser, and use a lotion or carrier oil (or just your fingers) to self-massage stress points.
- Spend two minutes in a comfortable position, breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth. Let your thoughts dwell on your own emotions and any thoughts that come bubbling up (but not the grocery list). Don’t feel like you are being selfish, this time is for you.
- Next, spend ten to fifteen minutes on one of the writing prompt below. Use a computer if you prefer, but don’t get distracted! Some people find it helpful to write the old fashioned way with pen and paper. Don’t correct spelling, grammar, or second guess your words … you don’t even have to keep what you’ve written when you are done.
- Spend one minute re-reading what you have written, and notice anything that surprises you, or causes an emotional reaction. Take note of it, but then feel free to move on with your day … this isn’t meant to cause angst, or derail your energy. It is just meant as a pause for attention on yourself.
- Repeat for ten days, and tell us how it goes! What did you learn? What did you like or dislike? What other writing prompts did you try for yourself?
**Use these writing prompts to discover a little more about yourself.**
Day 1. What Objects Tell the Story of Your Life?
Day 2. How Do You Define ‘Family’?
Day 3. What Do You Need from a Relationship?
Day 4. What Kinds of Things Put Pressure On You?
Day 5. If You Had the Resources, What New Skill Would You Learn?
Day 6. What Are the Best Things You’ve Learned from a Partner or Friend?
Day 7. Where Do You Feel Most at Home?
Day 8 What Assumptions Do People Make About You?
Day 9. What Kinds of Things Change How You Feel About Your Body?
Day 10. What Do You Celebrate About Yourself?